How discipline varies in every household.

This morning I woke up my son Tommy for preschool and he told me he didn’t want to go. I informed him that if he didn’t go I would take away his favorite game. That didn’t work, so I told him that if he didn’t go to school mommy would go to jail. That didn’t work either. I had to pick him up, kicking and screaming, and put him in the car. When we got to the preschool he refused to get out of the car and kept locking his door so I couldn’t get him out. I had to unlock the door real fast grab him out and close it again quickly before he climbed back into the car. I then started trying to drag him out of the parking lot while balancing his two year old brother,Dil, on my hip. When we got inside the preschool he repeatedly kicked and hit me, as well as his teacher. And there was nothing I can do, because in the real world I can’t do what I normally would have done. I had to walk out with Tommy still screaming and kicking, and let it go. Any way, to get to the point, I spank my children. I do time outs, and I let spanking be the last straw, but yes it does happen in my household. My sons know that it will happen but have gotten smart enough to know that I won’t do it in public, or in front of anyone else because of the threat of cys. So my kids now know to act out in public because they won’t be disciplined. I do understand that everyone does it differently but that is how I was raised and it worked for me. I was always scared of my dad spanking my butt.
On the other hand my mom doesn’t spank. She did when we were little but as she got older and had another baby 20 years younger than me, she changed her parenting ways. My brother Phil is punished by either taking things away from him, or time outs. That is the more present day approach to disciplining your child. I am not sure if it works or not, but I do know Phil listens to his teachers in and out of daycare when they do that to him. Phil is a little bit of a spoiled child though and sometimes it shows. Its really hard for him not to be a spoiled child with three older sisters and he is his fathers only child. He is very loved and yes spoiled because of whose around and how he is being raised. He has an attitude problem but other then that he is very well behaved.
Now on to Chuckie, my seven year old nephew. Chuckie has always been disciplined and disciplined hard. Since he was very small his mom actually would beat him, face, mouth, butt, where ever she could hit she would. Chuckie has a lot of fear of his mom, I am not sure if that is right or wrong. She calls him names, hurts him, and embarrasses him in public when he does something wrong. Chuckie still acts out though even though his mother does these things to him. I don’t know if its because the punishment isn’t stable or if it’s because he is becoming immune to the act. She is raising her other son the same way. Chuckie throws horrible temper tantrums where he throws things, hurts people and breaks things. I know the kid has a lot of different issues but I am curious how discipline comes into play. Chuckie’s mom tries to make everyone discipline her child the same way she does, which okay fine I can see not getting in the way of a parent disciplining their child. But to make someone else do what you do to your kids even if you don’t agree with it, I am not sure that’s right. She won’t think twice about smacking your kid across the face either.
Anyway the point of this post is to kind of explore the different means of discipline in peoples households. I honestly as a parent don’t know what the right way to discipline a child is, I mean everyone has their own opinion. Is it right to spank your child? Or should you just throw them in time out? Or do you beat the hell out of them? Come on America, let me know what you think and what your opinions are.


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